There are ways of speaking, sitting, looking, acting, reacting, that are inherited from childhood.
Some are lucky to be born in families that left them with behaviors that create a virtuous circle around them. They’ve got a great behavioral inheritance.
Some are totally unlucky, they inherited behaviors that create a negative loop in a vicious circle around their life. They are constantly met with failure regardless of their efforts and goodwill. They are barely aware why they keep failing or struggling. They’ve got a bad behavioral inheritance.
The first group of people succeed almost effortlessly while the second is hindered regardless of their efforts.
Imagine, boys who have never had a father figure in their life but have to assume a father figure role when they got kids. They’ve got no model in mind nor experienced the exercise of a father figure. They’ve got no behavioral inheritance here.
They desperately look up to books on parenting and hearsay, and often struggle very much at their fatherhood.
Imagine girls who grew up with their single mom, whose values were fierceness, independence, impertinence, forcefulness, defiance… all values which are adaptive behaviors to cope with raising kids alone.
Those girls might grow up taking those values as normal behaviors for a woman even when they wish to build a normal couple.… Read more