The collapse of family structures in my country

I lived in Europe for almost 15 years. I’ve seen first hand how the collapse of the African family has huge negative consequences on the African community there.

In suburbs inhabited by immigrants from Asia, turkey, Arabs countries and subsaharian Africa, and by poor Europeans, kids from Asian families consistently succeed better at school and later in life, while attending the same schools as the kids of other ethnicities.

A friend even said recently, he has never seen a homeless Asian in America or in Europe!

In the contrary, It’s rare to find a kid from an african family born in Europe who’d graduate at university, left alone turn out to be a successful professional.

What makes such a huge experience for kids living in the same environment, going to the same school, with the same teachers?


Asians value family and are still ready to sacrifice to building healthier families than any other ethnicity.

This evening I was talking to a community leader here, and we all agreed that marriages have disappeared from the community and single moms families are now the majority.

During the conversation, I asked him to consider family as a small country where there should be a leader, a constitution, a civil code, a police, a system of accountability, a healer, etc.… Read more

Lottery, the ultimate drug

Are you a doctor of our society?
You keeping throwing diagnoses after diagnoses!
Do you have cure for any?

No, madam. I’m not a social doctor. I’m just chronicling the things I see around. Not sure there is any on the shelf cure. Social diseases don’t have any doctor here. Those who suffer from them are left to Darwinian evolution to deal with them.

Prostitution is huge here, but who cares! Alcoholism is rampant, mental diseases are increasing, social disorientation is growing, juvenile pregnancy, and many more ugly things… but their victims are on their own. That’s natural!

Life is a lotto here, and here am I writing about lottery as a drug which is destroying my country.

In the city of Kpalime, in the south west of Togo, singlehandedly lottery has destroyed the economy, family structures and the youth of the town. I’m talking about a city of 80.000 people, besieged by alcoholism and gambling.

The father plays daily. The mom plays 3 times a week. The kids forfeit their pocket money to play. A field visit I’ve done in the city 3 years ago, showed that an average a family play lottery up to 45% of their monthly revenue.… Read more

Things I witness with sadness

You see our government pretends to develop our countries and our leaders claim to work tirelessly for our population to get out of poverty and become rich.

How true is that?

In my country, every person with a little bit of money and social status is called ‘chief’, ‘boss’, ‘patron’, ‘amegan’, …

All day long, men and women on the street, in markets, at the office, at home call those people by heralding and lauding words.

Things those rich people have in common are, a big house, a successful business, notorious politicians, nice cars, or basically have enough money to buy influence.

During the last five years, I’ve been spending time a lot out of my town and got to sit in meetings with people who are very much wealthy and affluent.

Something disturbing I noticed is that they seem to hate or dislike the idea that more and more people are owning nice cars. Suddenly they are not alone above the mass in misery. They hate that more and more people build nice houses like them, making them just one among so many anonymous. They dislike the idea that more people enter the middle class and behave so independently, speaking loudly with personal opinion, instead of being the usual people who dare not to look them in the eyes, just listen to them deferentially and nod with smiles.… Read more

Modernity madness

What is modernity?
Modernity is an ideology based on a rational and utilitarian approach to life.

Modernity means decisions and choices should be explainable, justifiable, argued according to logic and utility.

In any circumstances, the best option is the one based on reason and utility.

If you cannot justify, explain or ague anything rationally, therefore you are not modern or the thing is not modern.

That’s what modernity is.

Contrary to popular misconception, modernity does not mean European culture or customs.
Any culture or country could qualify as modern as far they function according to rational and utilitarian principles.

The 20th century had adopted modernity as the golden standard for organizing society. Any society which is not modern is therefore considered backward, primitive or a shithole.

The Frankfurt school of critical theory with the book ‘The Dialectic of Enlightenment (1946) by Horkheimer and Adorno, Heidegger’s Being and Time (1928), Harendt’s The Human Condition (1958) and the works of Habermas and Foucault did a great job showing us the limits of modernity and the enslavement shackle it has thrown on humans.

A contemporary author, Nassim Thaleb, said ‘modernity is a preventable chronic disease’.

But why?

No one discounts the achievements of rationality and utilitarianism.… Read more

God played fools

On Monday the sun rose at East
The city as usual, no one spoke
Except the lady without clothes

On Tuesday the sun rose at North
The roosters lost their voice
The charlatan was busy
The church was full
The mosque was louder
The wise men got bolder
The science man broke few instruments
The politician said a solution was on the way

On Wednesday, the sun rose at the West
People gathered in small groups
Rumours were faster than light
The city council closed the parks
The chicken didn’t cross the street
Dogs prayed louder than men
Silence was feared more than the white snake
The oracle dreams were scarier
The politician said a solution was on the way

On Thursday the sun rose in the South
Sinners confessed all wrongdoings
The charlatan asked for a pink hen
The priest asked for more donations
The pastor said Jesus is coming back at night
The man at the mosque lost all fingers

On Friday the sun rose at East
The politician was the first to speak
He had spoken directly to God, and voilà
He needs votes to keep in touch with God

The priest asked for more donations
The pastor asked for thanksgiving
The man at the mosque lost the East

On Saturday the sun rose again at East
The town was full of joy
The politician got votes
The church was richer
The pastor got a new car
The mosque man prayed seven times
The merchants sold everything

The ordinary man had given everything
His prayers had worked

He is now broke, but in joy
He is now broke, but thankful
He has just to work more

The politician is trustworthy
The church makes miracles
The mosque man is a saint

God plays fools
Man had learned from him
The man at the bank
The man at the church
The man at the mosque
The man at the market
The politician

You resemble the God you pray.… Read more

Dynasties Rules

Ideologies come and go
Like fashion
Political parties come and go
Like summer flies
Leaders come and go
Like butterflies

Unlike the thunder
Don’t roar or parade
In silence speaks loud
In discretion show off
In ruthlessness get your way
In compassion win hearts
In wisdom fool the people

Pledge allegiance to no ideology
Tie not yourself to a party or a leader
Your loyalty is only to your dynasty

Be resilient to political changes
Be resilient to ideologies fades
Be indifferent to the daily turmoil

See your family in 500 years
Design the rules that keep it prosperous
Beyond time
Beyond scandals
Beyond celebrity
Beyond ideologies

Learn to read the world with the eyes of a turtle
The humility of a cow tale
The mind of a fox
The heart of lion

Those who see time beyond their lifespan
Those who read the world without agitation
Know that all this too would pass
And only they would still be there for eternity.

Don’t be prisoner of impatience!

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Peace of mind and never ending happiness

This is your ticket to peace of mind and never ending happiness

The world would always be in crisis. This will not change.

There has never been any time in history where the world was not in a kind of crisis.

The permanent status of the world is permanent crisis, and more crises after more solutions. Solutions becoming problems, and problems becoming solutions.

Don’t let that turmoil defines you. Don’t structure your life around fixing the world.

Give yourself the permission to enjoy yourself and having peace inside and outside.

You can self appoint yourself as a champion of a cause, but you should never give precedence to public affairs over private ones.

Be generous first to yourself, second to your family, and next to your immediate neighbors.

In fact, the world had been saving itself for millennia before you were born. The world existed thousands of years before humans and would continue to exist millions of years after humans would be gone.

If you’d die tomorrow, the world won’t crumble. If you’d stop everything you are doing now, the world would still spinning, and probably no one would notice your death except your dog and your cat.

Keep in mind, your role here is you, first.… Read more

Difference between science and non-science

The simplest answer is this.
Every topic that is taught at schools with the same content, with the same books in Moscow, Washington, Beijing, Teheran, and Bengal is science.

In the contrary, any topic which content, books and approach is different in Moscow, different in Pyongyang, different in Beijing, different in New York is not science but what Nassim Taleb called ‘construction’.

Science is universal. Math is universal. While sociology, economics, management, philosophy are political construction depending on the interest of the local power structures.

No country with enough intellectual stamina teaches other political constructions to its pupils and students.

Did you know that sociology was invented by western countries to counter communism? They even teach that stuff at colonial universities!!

The sad thing is that some people waste 4 years and more of their life studying political propaganda tools 😂 thinking they are studying science. 😂😂😂

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Joyless success or Joyful outcast

The world seems to give a choice between plague and cholera

1. Joyless success
2. Joyful outcast

If you are the kind who like social status, accolades, stamps and titles, you accept the sacrifices of a joyless success.

If you are the kind who give no fuck about stamps and respectability but also refuse misery, you go for a joyful outcast.

There might be some middle grounds and everyone has good reasons for every option.

The the most important is to be aware of one’s own choice to avoid split personality which shortens life, and deprive you off the best of each world.

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Behavioral Inheritance tax

There are ways of speaking, sitting, looking, acting, reacting, that are inherited from childhood.

Some are lucky to be born in families that left them with behaviors that create a virtuous circle around them. They’ve got a great behavioral inheritance.

Some are totally unlucky, they inherited behaviors that create a negative loop in a vicious circle around their life. They are constantly met with failure regardless of their efforts and goodwill. They are barely aware why they keep failing or struggling. They’ve got a bad behavioral inheritance.

The first group of people succeed almost effortlessly while the second is hindered regardless of their efforts.

Now, …

Imagine, boys who have never had a father figure in their life but have to assume a father figure role when they got kids. They’ve got no model in mind nor experienced the exercise of a father figure. They’ve got no behavioral inheritance here.

They desperately look up to books on parenting and hearsay, and often struggle very much at their fatherhood.

Imagine girls who grew up with their single mom, whose values were fierceness, independence, impertinence, forcefulness, defiance… all values which are adaptive behaviors to cope with raising kids alone.

Those girls might grow up taking those values as normal behaviors for a woman even when they wish to build a normal couple.… Read more