Two things happened in recent African history that had completely knocked out the African man. Now, he is at best a confused man, and at worst a man looking for a master to serve, regardless of the cost to him or his community.
The first major event is the transition from a society where children are assets to a society where children are liabilities.
Asset means anything that brings you wealth or revenue. Liability means anything that takes money or wealth from you.
Assets make you rich. Liabilities makes you poor.
In traditional African societies having children carries the symbolism of wealth or future wealth. Kids brings not only joy, but represent a workforce to the family, specially for the man in farming, building and hunting.
When European terrorists arrived in Africa in the 18th century, they required the African families to send their kids to their ‘school’, at the exact moment when they reach the age to start helping their father and mother in life and business.
From that moment, kids instead of being assets, became liabilities. Parents give them birth, nurture them, care about them but won’t get any economical benefit from them, forever. They are sent to school around 5 or 7 years old, all their needs covered for the next twelve to 18 years by the parents, just for the benefit of society at large.
Parenting instantly became very costly and painful.
In many modern societies where that transition had happened the state had stepped in with free school, free maternity care, and family allowances through governments or employers, to make the cost of having children less difficult.
In Africa, that transition happened without any assistance to families. African men went broke instantly, and still are broke. They can’t assume anymore the role of provider and assurer, and therefore lost the social status that goes with such roles.
The second tragedy of the African man is the shame of being defeated by foreign men, and their lands and economy taken over by foreigners.
Women won’t have high esteem for losers and weak men who failed to defend their houses when the European terrorists came here.
In conclusion, the low status inherited from the physical defeat, and the lost of their kids as assets had made most African men ghosts in their own land.
Slowly, a new generation of African men is coming to clean up the shame and claim our lands back from foreigners, but much is still left to be done to awaken African men worldwide to their responsibility.