Softwares like Facebook or WhatsApp are written with a programming language.
There are tens of software’s languages, like Python, Java, Php. Software engineers have to master those languages, following strict syntax, structures, logic, procedures, etc.
Regardless of their seniority or mastery, there are always bugs in the software. Bugs make the software or app not work well or been hacked.
Therefore debugging is a big part of the work of writing a software.
In society, we interact with each other with social languages, and there are hundreds of them.
Regardless of mastery of a social language, we always end up saying something stupid, insensitive and hurtful. Our social app for managing our family or our career might have bugs.
Like software, we need to learn to debug our syntax, structure, logic in other to improve our interaction with other.
Our success in life heavily depend of our dexterity in using our language.
I always advise, parents to spend lot of time helping their kids debug their social language. It’s the worthiest gift any kid would receive from parent: good language skills.
And for adult, it’s chief important to become aware of the necessity to continue learning our social language, and foremost to actively seek peer review in debugging their language patterns.
The next time some says something that hurts you, just tell him “Debug that!”.
Your language is your reality.